How are You?

‘Fine’?’ ‘Surviving’? ‘Good’? ‘Busy’?

Hmm.

How Are You Feeling?

Take a moment. Where you are on a 1–10 scale?
No fixing required—support meets you right there.

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4. Anxious / Frustrated

I’m stuck in my head. Irritable. Things feel hard and heavy.

Why a 1-10 Scale?

Jon met with two other parents every Thursday morning for about two years. They all had children around the same age. At first, they’d check in: How are you doing? How’s it going?

The answer was almost always the same—fine—which, of course, meant not fine.

So they started using a scale.
2 was “everything’s falling apart.”
7 was “I somehow slept, showered, and everyone had breakfast.”

Anything above a 5 felt like a win.

The person with the lowest number went first. They got the time, the attention, the space.

What was going on? How were they really feeling? Were they sleeping? What new behaviours were their kids throwing their way? What were they trying to navigate?

The scale wasn’t about judgment—it was a shortcut to support.
A way to name the hard, quickly.
A way to say, “I see you,” without needing a full explanation.

That’s why we use a scale.
Not to measure you.
To support you.

How to Use the Scale

  1. Take one breath

  2. Ask yourself: On a scale of 1–10, where am I right now?

  3. Say the number—silently or out loud

  4. Move the slider to that number

  5. Choose one of the short audio microtools

No action required.
No improvement plan.

If you want support, we’ll meet you at that number.

Would more support like this be helpful right now? 

Yes. that would help

A gentle look at what you’d receive, how often, and whether this kind of support would be helpful right now

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  • 'This was a great way to start the series. It was very short, easy to follow and honestly felt like low stakes.  It just calmed and centered me. I will be doing this exercise regularly throughout the day.’

    Nadine F. Ithaca, NY, USA. Mother of a 6 girl and 4 year old boy

    Link to SIPS

  • ‘The concept of breathing like a box is terrific. It’s just tangible enough to focus on whilst being abstract enough that I don’t concentrate as if I’m truly thinking.

    Nick, Dartington, Devon, UK. Father of a two year old

    Link to Box Breathing

  • ‘It’s been a very trying week here with a sick kid, no nursery and lots of work. I’ve used this SIPS exercise more than a few times and found it really helpful. This is so needed!’

    Dana, Brooktondale, NY, USA.

    Link to SIPS

  • Warmth: ‘This is lovely’.

    Philippa J. B, Devon, UK.  Mother of 2 and 4 year old boys

    Link to Warmth

  • 'I feel like these very small moments are achievable'

    Kate H. Mother of an 18 month old and a 3.5 year old.

    Link to Gratitude

  • Rebalancing: ‘I listened to this before a tricky situation. Very helpful. I really like the rebalancing concept.

    Leonie, Totnes, Devon, UK.  Mother of a 3.5 year old son

    Link to rebalancing

  • Rebalancing with finger touch: ‘ When you've practiced it enough starts to link your brain to calming down. Like a shortcut on a computer. Nice quick calming one to have in your tool box. You can do it anytime and nobody would notice, like when you are trying to calm down while your toddler is upstrated because you won't let him pour milk in the toaster. (Yes really)’.

    Bex C, Newton Abbot, UK.

    Link to rebalancing with finger touch